married life guide

Marriage is a pure and a loving relation between a man and a woman which is recognized by the society within the governmental norms. It is a ceremony or a function where a man and a woman tie a nuptial knot and are lawfully termed as husband and wife. It is a relation in which they promise to “live together during the good or bad times, during richness and poverty, misery and health until death parts them”. Well, all this seems to be very easy but it is in fact not easy to lead a happy, contented and a peaceful marriage life. There are situations where both, man and woman need to compromise and sustain their feelings to live a harmonious life. There should be a great understanding amongst the couple and they should be mentally compatible to face all the walks of life. For the younger generation, its love that exists in marriage and if there is no love between the couple, the marriage dissolves, but for older generation, the fact is different. It is not only love that builds the relation but other strong factors like understanding, concern, devotion and dedication towards each other makes a successful marriage. Getting a right person is not enough, you yourself also have to be a right person. There are some important reasons why people get married. 1. To love and for being loved: A lot of people tie a knot because they are madly in love with each other. Marriage gives you a certificate to intensely and passionately love each other legally. There are no bounds to the extent of love. There is no thought of guilt as you are stamped as a married couple. This way you can shower love on your partner and be loved by your partner freely. Marriage fills up the loneliness in hearts of people longing for love. 2. To protect and be cared for: Often People have a protection shield around them, especially females, once married. Women are at a greater risk when single, of being robbed, raped, teased etc. Once a woman gets married she feels secure in the arms of her man. Men on the other hand, feel wanted and they like the fact of being superior as they shelter a woman. 3. For Satisfaction, Pleasure and Security: A lot of people feel complete on getting married. They are satisfied and enjoy pleasures of life mentally, physically and sexually. There is a feeling of security amongst both partners mentally and financially, where both the partners can share their assets during difficult financial conditions. 4. Socially recognized and produce children legally: There are a lot of social pressures if you remain unmarried for quite a long time. Once married, people tend to respect you and tend to see you as a family oriented person. They term you as settled, once you are married. You can produce children and lead a typical family life with respect and love from your family as well as society. 5. To escape Isolation: a lot of people feel lonely if they are single. After a days work when you are back to a home where there is nobody for you, that makes you feel isolated. Isolation is a major cause of heavy smoking and drinking. Isolated or singles tend to look older than their age. 6. To share responsibilities: Any person in this society is loaded with a lot of responsibilities where he/she cannot take it on his/her shoulders alone, so he/she needs a partner with whom h/she can share all his/her physical and mental responsibilities.

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Don Diamont (Brad), who originated the role in 1985, has been fired. Sources say Brad will die in a murder mystery early next year.

TV Guide’s Michael Logan is reporting Y&R is in the midst of penning and planning a big, lavish wedding this spring. My bet? Victor and Ashley.

It looks like Michael Graziadei is indeed leaving Y&R this spring.

Singer Tiffany will appear on daytime’s best soap as a Christmas caroler on Dec. 22.

Hey you guys as you know this is my first spoilers post in about a month now and I am sorry. I have missed talking about all of our favorite show with you guys. After the holidays I will be on much much more. My job is taking up most of my time (but I am not going to stay working there) and to make it worse my Laptop is so infected with viruses so we have to come to the Library. So it will be better after the Holidays. I hope these Spoilers can tide you over for now HA!

So what do you think of this? I am sad to see both Brad and Daniel be leaving the show.
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Just curious why married folk waste time on these social sites?
Obviously they are posting as themselves to reconnect with old friends (can you say “I enjoy living in the past”)
Here, people post not to reconnect with people they know, but to ask questions or answer them, so Yahoo and Facebook are not equal.

Just curious if you do spend time on it, and WHY?
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Perhaps when you and your spouse are at odds with each other, you’ve asked yourself “Why did I ever get married?”

There are probably many possible reasons, but one is that you had a
choice in deciding whether to marry or not to marry.

Throughout the history of civilization, this is a fairly recent development. The origin of domestic male-female relationships was based on survival. The species could best survive if the male remained the hunter and the female stayed at home, raised the children and tended the crops, a purely economic arrangement.

Later, marriages were arranged by parents at birth. This was designed, in part, to insure the clan remained intact.

A variation of this was to prevent teenagers from marrying outside the clan. On the other hand, if there was friction between two tribes, the heads of both might arrange a marriage between a member of each to strengthen the bonds between them and insure peace.

Royal families in Europe continue this practice today by encouraging marriages between royalty of other countries.

In some primitive cultures daughters were bartered to prospective grooms. The more attractive women were worth more cows than less attractive ones.

In some parts of Africa, women can still be bought as slaves. And men of importance can have many wives.

In all of these examples, the participants had little or no choice of a marriage partner. When they did, they had few prospects to choose from. At any one time how many princes and how many princesses are available?

When the industrial revolution took place, the mores of the civilized world had drastic changes. People found an increasing number of ways to making a living, and in living their lives.

Love replaced obligation as a prelude to marriage. People were expected to fall in love and live happily ever after. But, since no one knows what love is, the task becomes very confusing. Sex is often mistaken for love. Therefore, when one party says, “Let’s make love, is he/she talking about love or sex?

When the Puritans took over, it was easier. Sex before marriage was taboo. Therefore, the only way you could have sex without feeling guilty was to get married. If a woman really wanted to get married, she could retain her virginity until her boyfriend agreed. Then in the marriage vows, performed before God and everybody, both parties promised to be monogamous for life.

All that has changed since the so-called sexual revolution and the woman’s rights movement. Now, the trend preaches sex without guilt, and virginity is no longer esteemed.

Today, couples living together sans marriage is quite common.
It’s kind of a trial marriage, but without the long term commitment.
It saves money when the couple share expenses. Sex is available.
And the agony of a bitter divorce is avoided.

Too often these arrangements don’t work out, which proves the couple was not destined to live happily ever after.

With all the reasons not to get married, it is a wonder why millions choose to trade in their freedom for a marriage license.

Obviously, the answer varies from person to person. A successful marriage depends on each partner satisfying the emotional needs of the other, and needs vary from person to person.

Surveys of couples who have lasting marriages cite qualities that were important, such as trust, caring, friendship, compassion, security and affection. These were considered more important than freedom.

A couple celebrating their 80 year marriage anniversary stated that the most important factor in their longevity was that they talked to each other.

Since no one seems to have a better definition of “love,” perhaps it is really some combination of the qualities mentioned above. Love is why people choose to marry, and when it endures, it is the glue that holds marriages together.

Copyright 2006 Robert T. Lewis

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It just seems to me that so many people are so focused on preparing for that one simple day that they miss out on the fact that you have an entire married life after that (or at least, you should).

What happened to make the wedding more important than the marriage?
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The internet is a large place with all type of services and niches for anything you can imagine. Online dating for instance is a multi million dollar industry. In the dating industry there are tons of different niches ranging from BBW (big beautiful women), ethnic dating such as (Muslim, Asian) and there is even a niche called “married dating“. Yes you read right, there are many dating sites that cater to married men and women who are looking for extramarital affairs.

The “married but looking” population is quite large, and it only makes sense. With the divorce rate at over 50% people find the love and attention that they aren’t getting at home through married personal ads and other means. We can argue if it is right or wrong but it’s human nature to want companionship, this can range from a one night stand to leaving your wife for another lady.

And along comes the internet and changes how we interact and meet one another and this includes married men seeking married women and vice verse. Online married dating sites that cater to to married people are popular for a few reason. The first reason that it is popular is because of the autonomy of the internet. People feel anonymous online so they tend to explore subjects that they wouldn’t otherwise be able to. The web is a huge place and if you’re interested in cheating on your wife then there is probably a married woman who is interested in the same thing.

As the popularity of the web exploded in early the late 1990s so did dating sites and then married dating sites like Ashley Madison and Married Cafe started to spring up that catered exclusively to married people . These sites are designed to be discreet and when you pay a monthly membership usually the name on the credit card statement is very discreet, to keep husbands and wives in the dark as to what is really going on.

Married dating sites operate like any other online dating service, you have all the options that you can think of. You can search based on gender, distance, body size, age and of course marital status. It’s like shopping for an automobile, you can choose exactly what you want and click submit to see the results in seconds.

These web sites are big money makers for the owners looking at the millions of members that some sites boast. Like it or not extra marital affairs have always happened, maybe it’s easier now to meet married women or men but it has always been there.

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I am a shy kind of a would-be bride and I assume that I’ll find it difficult to interact with my hubby on our wedding night, thus he might lost interest and find it a turn off.. what should I do?

What advice you have to make a married life stable and smooth.

Thanks.
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