The Suite Life on Deck: #42 Marriage 101 Part 1

By admin on Thursday, April 15, 2010
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Why wait ’til saturday when i can give this to you guys….RIGHT NOW!? Ms. Tutweiler assigns her students class project that would make them simulate married life. The students must act like married couples and manage a household, making budget, having children, the whole shebang of being married. Cody and Bailey are the model couple, while Zack and London make a surprisingly good couple too. But when Woody and Addison have a child Marcus they learn how difficult adult life can be. Guest stars: Erin Cardillo as Emma Tutweiller, Matthew Timmons as Woody Fink, Rachael Bell as Addison Absent: Phill Lewis as Mr. Moseby Season 2 Episode 21

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My Chemical Romance: Fuse Part 2: Married Life/MCR Concerts

By admin on Saturday, March 20, 2010
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my chemical romance stevens untitled rock show on fuse! talking about gerards marriage and upcoming mcr concerts? hm enjoy

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Readiness – Creating Emotional Space in your Life – Part 1

By admin on Tuesday, March 16, 2010
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The past wounds of our hearts also need tender loving care and healing. “Readiness” means creating emotional space in your life and in your heart for your soul mate to enter. Ask yourself the following questions: Is there someone that I am still in love with?

If you answered yes to this question, think about this: If you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, would you be willing to give yourself all the time that it takes to let them go? I don’t believe that you have to stop loving them but I do believe you need to find a new place in your heart for them. When I envision my own heart, I see it as a vast, loving, elastic, sacred space that fits within my chest and expands to encompass the Universe. There is a chamber in my heart for people that I love, or have loved, but no longer have my attention on. Take some time to find a place in your heart where you can send your former lovers love but not spend any of your precious time “wanting” them. So often people will tell you to “just forget about them” when really, that just isn’t possible for you. I think a lot of pain comes from resisting our true feelings for someone. Allow yourself to love them but not be consumed by thoughts of being with them.

As your thoughts of this person come up, quickly tuck them into your special heart chamber and turn your attention to something else. If you find yourself obsessing, wishing, hoping, fantasizing about what you can’t have (or what isn’t in your highest and best good) it then becomes an issue of managing your emotions. There are many great forms of therapy and emotional processes to help you with this including EMDR, hypnosis, and The Sedona Method (more details about this are in the Resource Guide).

Be willing to spend the time and money to get professional support if you need it. I certainly did my share of therapy and workshops and found all of it incredibly useful.

Are there any past relationships that I am incomplete with? (someone you are still angry with, feeling betrayed by, haven’t forgiven, etc.?)

Identify who you need to complete with – this would include what they did and what you did and your thoughts on what it will take to make you “ok” with the situation. I have found that writing a detailed letter (that will probably never get mailed) is the fastest way to download all the hurt and upset. If you answered yes to this question, take fifteen minutes now to write this letter. In the letter, be sure to acknowledge and apologize for the part you played in the situation (If you are thinking you’ll do this “later,” I invite you

to do it now.)

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It Isn’t Easy Being Married To Me Part One

By admin on Tuesday, March 9, 2010
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First in a series that proves it isn’t easy being married to me.

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To what extent are kids part of the reason a married life exists?

By admin on Wednesday, March 3, 2010
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Does life get boring-n-routine if you don’t have any kids? Is it possible to find ‘bliss’ in a married life without kids… just you and your spouse living for each other till the end of time?
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The Metaphysical View of Death and Life After Death Part 10

By admin on Monday, March 1, 2010
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Astral projection is an occult art that was commonly practiced by ancient mystics. Apollonius of Tyana, Yeheshuah (Jesus Christ) and many other mystics often used the ability in their ministry and work. In centuries past and up to this very day, Wicca, or the tradition of witchcraft, teaches its adherents the secrets of astral projection. The superstition that witches rode on broomsticks to their covens actually stems upon the fact that witches were adepts in the art of astral projection and astral travelling. The art of astral projection was kept secret throughout the centuries until the inception and commencement of parapsychological research in the previous century by reputable and eminent scientists. What was once shrouded in mystery and transmitted secretly to initiates, are now being rediscovered or taught openly to the public through the mass media.

This occurred because early parapsychological findings paved a way for the revelation of such arcane knowledge. People were made ready for the knowledge and power that occultism had to confer. In contemporary times, Carl Jung, the great psychoanalyst, experienced many OBEs and commented on the “absolute objectivity” of his experiences. Other famous persons who had OBEs were among others, St. Augustine, Goethe, Plato, Aristotle, Wordsworth, Alfred Tennyson, and Ernest Hemingway.

Astral projection, like NDEs, is one of the ways that an individual may prove to him or herself of the truth of the survival of consciousness at the time of transition–that the self, the personal consciousness may function independently of the physical brain and organism. Death is no longer feared, and in a sense, may be said to be “eradicated” once a single astral projection is experienced and apprehended.

Hypnotic-Regression of the Soul

Hypnotism has come a long way since the days of Anton Mesmer and his concept of “animal magnetism.” It has passed through many changes of techniques and used for various purposes such as entertainment, self-improvement and healing. Certain principles or tools of psycho-transformation such as affirmation, or “subtle suggestion” are linked to the Mesmeric tradition. In recent years hypnotherapy, or hypnotism used as a therapeutical tool, commenced a new line of probing into the depths of the human psyche. This occurred when certain individuals had spontaneous recollection of their past-lives. If hypnotism could be used to stir and dig up the memory of the present life, could it not also be used to probe deeper into the memory of the psyche to acquire information of a life lived in a past identity or incarnation? This question asked by experts in hypnosis was based on the concept of reincarnation. The underlying premise was that if reincarnation were true, the results of deeper probings into the psyche would offer clues as to its reality. In this section we will not discuss the results of such findings, suffice to say that many case studies of soul-regression into past lives were found to be plausible and later discovered through research to actually be historically-based. What we will consider briefly here are the findings of soul-regression through hypnosis–in the theta-state-pertaining to soul-memory of the transition state and the life beyond the Great Change. This field of study and investigation is just another logical step from the previous probings into past life experiences.

Our main (and only) source of information concerning this subject is derived from Michael Newton. After investigating the matter for several years along the lines that we have delineated above, he published his findings in the Journey of Souls. One of his main discoveries is that not all souls are of the same spiritual age; that souls may be classified as to their soul-age or evolutionary status. This spiritual principle is actually the origin of the caste system formed in ancient India. Broadly speaking, souls of the same class or spiritual age usually conform to a certain set of experiences during transition and in their “placement” which souls of a higher class usually bypass or do not normally undergo. This corresponds to the general idea of Bardo experiences where one may liberate oneself at any stage, relinquishing the need to experience the following phases–and this usually conforms with soul age and experience. Newton discovered that there was a “homogeneity of experience” among his subjects in the transitional experience, especially when it progressed through further stages.

Subjects of soul-regression declare that after the initial surprise of being alive during and after transition with its concomitant deathbed visions, a certain white light emerges and attracts their attention. This stage is often accompanied by divine music. From the point of view of Tibetan metaphysics, this white light is none other than the Clear Light of the Void manifesting in the secondary stage of Chikai. Ignorant of what is to be accomplished at this stage, some of the subjects of Newton simply passed on to another stage of the bardo where the judgment or the “tunnel effect” was experienced. Some report of having hovered over the dead body for several days because of confusion, anger or bewilderment. This usually occurs to those who were killed or murdered unexpectedly. We may equate this experience with the latter part of the Chonyid or Sidpa bardo.

Almost all subjects of deathbed visions describe the “tunnel-effect” where one feels oneself travelling through a long dark tunnel to an uncertain destination represented by a point of light at the distance. This light gets closer and closer as one approaches its source. In occultism, this light is actually the light of the astral realms and should not be confused with the Clear White Light of the Bardo, which is essentially a state of illumination. The tunnel-effect is an experience of the crossing of the veil that separates the physical from the astral regions. It is a “movement” into a different dimension, a birthing into a higher world. After the tunnel effect, and while still being a little disoriented, subjects report on experiencing vibrations of love, comfort and companionship emanating from what they later discovered to be a reception committee comprising of close friends, relatives and their personal, spiritual guide. This “reception committee” Newton found, is always planned well in advance of the soul’s transition by the soul’s personal and spiritual guide to assist it in adjusting to new conditions. Advance souls; however, according to certain case studies, go through the white light experience and the tunnel-effect very quickly. Most of these souls often go straight to their destined realm without undergoing the preliminary stages of meeting with loved ones. Newton believes that these souls do not require the comfort and solace from other beings that young souls usually crave for. After adjusting to the vibratory condition of the astral realm, Newton’s subjects marvel at the remarkable sight awaiting them, and they are usually at a loss for words. Newton comments on this:

“I enjoy hearing from subjects about the first images of the spirit world. People may see fields of wildflowers, castle towers rising in the distance, or rainbows under an open sky . . .” (1995:24)

And he continues:

“Regardless of their state of mind right after death, my subjects are full of exclamations about discovering marvels of the spirit world. Usually, this feeling is combined with euphoria that all their worldly cares have been left behind, especially physical pain.” (1995:25)

After meeting beloved ones, most souls are brought to special places designed to heal past traumatic experiences. In these healing centers subjects describe themselves as being bathed in swirling light. Those who are seriously damaged in a psychological way, and who possess negative, or evil tendencies, are brought to rehabilitation centers by their guides and secluded for a period of time.

After the required healing, souls are sent to the realm corresponding to their spiritual attainment. This is described in the Journey of Souls as “placement.” Subjects describe riding on a beam of light, a current of energy, to their destination whether it be in the upper astral or the lower mental. In placements, souls are brought to their spiritual group comprising of individuals of a similar evolutionary status, and they normally do not wander form their group to join other associations. According to Newton’s subjects, in the subtle spheres, the age of the soul manifests in a certain colour or hue in their aura; these souls of a certain evolutionary status (colour) congregate together to form their spiritual group, which is presided or directed by a higher soul functioning as guide and teacher. In these groups discussions take place concerning experiences in the newly-terminated life. The discussions that take place are not unlike the group discussions that occur in a psychotherapeutical meeting where one’s attitudes, motives and feelings for a certain action are analyzed and where one’s behavioral pattern or habit is rationalized by the psychotherapist, or others within the group. The spirit world, as we can see from this, is a time for evaluation, assimilation, and analysis. According to subjects, some of the activities that souls engage in are research and study in libraries or spiritual work undertaken at the direction of their spiritual guides. Similar to the teachings of the Occult Tradition, the case studies of Newton indicates an active life in the higher planes where one may study the various fine arts and sciences or express one’s creativity in the art of mental creation, or alchemical precipitation. In the heavenly worlds a soul must learn how to utilize the mental and psychic faculties effectively in order to accomplish creative works.

In these fraternal groups of the astral regions, plans are also made for new challenges in the physical world through incarnation. Sometimes agreements are formed between members of these group-minds to incarnate together to carry-out certain tasks or for certain experiences beneficial to soul-growth. For instance, the marriage-made-in-heaven concept is actually formed by souls in the higher worlds who are karmically connected or spiritually related. Choosing a soul-entity to be one’s earth marriage partner is done out of free-will as is the choice to reincarnate–though within the bounds of karma. These chosen partners may or may not come from the same group; however, as it all depends on the lessons that the soul wishes to learn. Before incarnating, these married-couples-to-be formulate certain signs that they would have to look for or to be aware of in the circumstances of their physical plane meeting and in each other to realize the soul-agreement existing between them and that they are, in fact, “soul-mates.”

These signs are not usually known or remembered on the conscious level. It is triggered into conscious knowing and feeling from the subconscious mind level through the actual manifestation of those signs on the physical plane. Although gender manifests universally in the physical plane, souls are described by Newton’s subjects to be androgynous and manifests in the male or female form in the astral worlds out of preference. Lacking any permanent sexual form, it is thus possible for a soul-entity to embody in the physical world as a male or a female human being.

In contradistinction to “placement,” some soul-entities are “displaced.” Newton describes them in the following:

“There are two types of displaced souls: those who do not accept the fact their physical body is dead and fight returning to the spirit world for reasons of personal anguish, and those souls who have been subverted by, or had complicity with, criminal abnormalities in a human body.” (1995:45)

Indeed, this is an interesting subject, we will therefore discuss this briefly. Paranormal researchers have found that some souls are not aware of their transition. This is usually the result of violent deaths where the permanent atoms are expelled from the physical form simultaneously causing consciousness, or self-awareness to be retained throughout the experience. One of the reasons that makes it so difficult for such souls to accept their condition is that they feel their astral form to be no different from the physical–that, in fact, it feels solid and very much alive. Another reason is that they are unattended and ungreeted by those on the Otherside to give comfort, solace and appropriate information. As a result, these souls become confused, frustrated and “lost.” These souls are trapped in time and space and sustain their entrapment in the physical plane because of their ignorance. In spiritualism, these are called “earthbound spirits.” The motion-picture “Ghost” and many others illustrate this earthbound condition. Only after certain discoveries–at times with the aid of spiritual guides–do these earthbound spirits discover their position and condition. At times the help of guides are rejected thus prolonging the soul’s earthbound condition. Such souls usually bind themselves to a certain geographical location. They often seek contact with three-dimensional physical beings, thus commencing and producing a “haunting” condition.

They usually live in darkness–their field of vision being murky–they are, therefore, attracted to any coloured illuminations that might appear in their vicinity. Not understanding the nature of these illuminations or lights–which are actually the aura of living beings–they tend to merge or attach themselves with it. They often find themselves trapped in people’s auras. Unknowingly they may reach into such depths as to consider the physical body of their victim as their own and the original tenant as the victimizing spirit. This is technically called “possession,” and causes much needless suffering to both parties involved. Possessions of this non-intentional, non-demonic variety may be exorcised effectively and morally only through helping both possessor and the possessed. In this method, the earthbound soul is given information and advice as to the nature of its plight and the way out to freedom. In this manner both sides involved in the possession are liberated. In this psychological counseling, the earthbound soul is made to realize that it belongs to another dimension; the simple awareness of this truth on the part of the invading spirit is sufficient enough to release it from its bondage and entrapment between worlds. Generally speaking, calls for help–and acceptance of such help, together with a release of desires and attachment to familiar surroundings of the earth plane on the part of the earthbound soul, gradually and automatically raises its vibration and moves it on into the astral world where it may find its placement and once again interact and relate with others of its kind.

The methods for exorcising demonic possessions are a little different from the above method where the principles of psychology are used to advise the victimizer. The so-called “demons” in such possessions are most often human souls with very negative and violent propensities. Such earthbound spirits are usually attracted to others of similar temperament, idiosyncrasies, habits and desires. They often seek to satiate their own earthly desires through a human channel. These souls are often stubborn, arrogant, and malevolent. Spiritual advise given to them in any way is often ridiculed and rejected. It such cases, assuming a wrathful and authoritative attitude with a definite command directed to them often helps to extirpate these entities. There is a principle that assists in this rite of exorcism–in expelling demonic beings from their human victims that psychic researchers have discovered: these negative beings are intensely afraid of pure radiant light, especially the pure light within the aura of pure and holy persons. Aside from the natural light-radiance of holy beings, in experiments it was discovered that visualized white light was equally effective. This light is visualized by the exorcist surrounding everyone present involved in the exorcism, especially the victim. Evidently, radiant white light causes some pain to these beings with demonic natures. Such luminescence is therefore avoided by them and causes their hasty retreat. When circumstances permit, these negative souls are brought to special places in the astral realm by their spiritual guides for rehabilitation. These places may be thought of as “hell” by its inhabitants. They are not there for eternity, though. They either progress from there to purgatory or incarnate once again in the three-dimensional world. In the end, all earthbound souls must submit to their rightful placement. In should be understood that in most cases of possessions the underlying cause is not by invading entities or malicious thoughtforms but by the assertion or projection of a personality (perhaps from a past life) from the subconscious. In psychiatry this is called schizophrenia.

Souls are sometimes earthbound because of their attachment to their relatives or friends. There are times when these earthbound souls contact earthlings through a medium. Usually they bring an important message which they feel themselves obliged to pass on to relatives or to certain individuals. This then may be a cause of their earthbound condition, or in other cases, they seek to enlighten humanity concerning life after death. It should be noted here that not all communications through mediums are from disembodied human souls. Some of the communicating beings are in fact elemental spirits, elementary beings, astral shells or even the medium’s own subconscious mind–all mischievously deceiving ignorant humans. But nevertheless, sifting the information derived from communicating spirits through mediums, from the reliable to the questionable, psychic researcher Ernesto Bozzano states the following principles as affirmed by spiritualistic communicators (cf “Life, Death & Consciousness”):

“1) That all of them found themselves in human form in the spiritual world.

“2) That for some time, or even for a long period of time, they did not realize they were dead.

“3) That during the pre-death crisis, or even a little after, they passed through the trial of summarily recalling all the events of their existence (`panoramic vision’ or `epilogue of death’).

“4) That in the spiritual world they were welcomed by the spirits of their relatives and friends.

“5) That nearly all of them passed through a more or less lengthy phase of reparatory sleep.

“6) That they nearly eventually found themselves in a radiant and marvelous spiritual environment (in the case of morally normal deceased), or in a shadowy and oppressive environment (in the case of morally depraved deceased).

“7) That they had found the spiritual environment to be a new world that was objective, substantial and real, a spiritualized version of the earthly environment. During the separation of the astral from the physical body, it first assumes a cloudy nature which slowly assumes the shape of a physical body.

“8) That they had learnt that this was due to the fact that thought was a creative force in the spiritual world and thus enabled a spirit living in the astral plane to reproduce around himself the environment of his memories.

“9) That it had not taken them long to learn that thought transmission was the language of spirits, even though newly arrived spirits delude themselves that they converse by means of words.

“10) That they had found that the faculty of spiritual vision enabled them to perceive objects simultaneously on all sides, just as they could see inside them and through them.

“11) That they had discovered that spirits could instantaneously take themselves from one place to another–even when they were very far apart–by virtue of an act of will; nevertheless, they could walk in the spiritual environment or float a short distance above the ground.

“12) That they had learned that the spirits of the deceased will fatally and automatically gravitate to the spiritual sphere to which they belong, this by virtue of the ‘law of affinity.’”(1991:88)

Copyright © 2006 Luxamore

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Life Coaching Personal Coaching Relationship Coaching Relationship Bytes Part 1

By admin on Saturday, February 27, 2010
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An estimated 80% of people who come to our company for coaching are searching for answers on the subject of relationships. There is no doubt that human relationships are a complex interaction. We would go so far as to say there is nothing more complex.

If you are like many of our clients, you will have come to the realization that the answers to a great relationship are not in trying to change, alter or transform someone else. The answers lie within each of us.

Before we delve into that, let’s take a look at what the word ‘relationship’ really means in our society? Why are relationships so important to us? Why do we seek them in the first place?

Firstly, the word “relationship” is an abstract noun (a noun frozen in time, made to look and feel like a proper noun, but it isn’t) and literally means to relate, connect or form a bond. This means that a relationship is a process. So if you stop relating, connecting or bonding, the ‘relationship’ falls apart.

Success in any relationship, whether it is in your business or your personal life, is far more than just a desire to succeed, (although that desire does make up part of the big picture of success), as we will find out.

Most people would say that we seek relationships to find happiness, but I don’t think that is correct. Author, Trainer and Coach Dr John Demartini agrees and he postulates that we seek relationships to make up for the parts of us that are missing or in need of balance.

“This”, John says in his new book, The Breakthrough Experience, “is why we often attract partners that are so different from ourselves. They balance us by bringing us back into equilibrium”.

Many people have become very wealthy writing about this subject.

The proof of this is in any newspaper or magazine you might care to read. In fact bookshops are fully stocked on the subject. You may find though that the information contained in this article is somewhat different, as it based on the cognitive behavioural psychological sciences of Neuro Semantics (NS) and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and takes a different perspective on our ability to relate to each other.

So what is the key to finding and maintaining successful relationships? There are many facets to this complex subject. I have listed 7 key areas that I believe to be the most important, and I will expand on each in the coming months, article by article. The 7 key elements of successful relationships:

1. The ability to manage your frames of mind (your state of mind, your mood, your attitude, your mindset in any given context) is at the core of the relationship process. That’s right, it starts with you. It is from a positive framework (our state of mind at any given moment) that allows us to relate with others in an empowering way.

Our frames of mind directly affect the way we behave which in-turn directly affects the outcomes we achieve.

In Meta-coaching we call this the be-do-have equation; our state (the being) influences our behaviour (the doing) which in turn influences the results that we get in life (the having). Finding our power in a relationship then starts with our state of mind, the framework, the unconscious rules we bring to them. This allows us to effect the only thing we can take control of and that is “ourselves”.

2. The ability to establish and maintain rapport. Sometimes, it seems as though it is hard to keep the rapport going in a relationship, especially when we disagree with someone’s point of view or when our core value is violated. Rapport underpins all human communication. Without rapport, we will tend to encounter toxic relationships.

Rapport is a two way process that has an underlying structure to it. We will provide you with the secrets of that structure within this series of articles so that you may create powerful rapport with people at an unconscious level. You will come to understand the rules of rapport building that will gain you rapport even with the most difficult people in your life.

3. The ability to effectively communicate your ideas and to influence other people. When I am coaching I will often notice that many see the word influence as having a negative connotation. I find this surprising because influence is actually a very positive attribute found at the heart of the world’s most successful people. Sometimes I think people get the words influence and manipulation mixed up.

Influence is the ability to communicate how we see the world (our map of the world) to someone else, in a way that they actually understand. That should be a thing of celebration! A friend of mine once said to a girl he met for the first time at a party “I can’t believe you get it, you see the world the way I do?” which was closely followed by the words, “WILL YOU MARRY ME?” She did and they still are married.

This kind of interaction is quite rare for most of us, the main reason being that we all have different maps of the world. We all see and experience the world differently and we can’t understand how other people can think so differently to us. Once we understand that other people see the world from a different point of view, we can learn to figure out the structure of their thinking (beliefs, values, higher level thinking patterns). We can then use this to learn how to communicate to them in a way that they can understand, and in doing so we can become understood. Isn’t that what we all want?

4. The ability to take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror, to see and accept who you really are, for all your faults and all your strengths. This is where coaching comes in and why it is a process strictly for those who have the ego strength to do just that. If we are unable to do this on a regular basis, we may begin to fall into a pattern of psychological projection, projecting our faults onto the people we interact with. I’m sure you will agree this could be fatal in any relationship.

Through acceptance of ourselves, we can get a benchmark of our current frames of mind, our beliefs, our values and our higher level thinking patterns. Our beliefs and values are a high level compass, in that they guide what we pay attention to. Once we understand and accept who we are, we can begin to make adjustments to the direction of our life at this high level.

We can then figure out where we want to go and who we want to become in our life and change our frames, our values and beliefs and thinking patterns to facilitate the creation of our dreams.

5. The ability to step back and look at your relationships from multiple perspectives.

That is to take a look at your interactions from another’s perspective rather than just your own.

Just take what is going on at the moment in the Middle East. There are some people over there, all with different ideas (maps) in their heads about the same basic issues. They all see it from a different point of view – the only problem is that they are looking at the same issues from their own point of view.

If those in power were to step back and look at the big picture of what is going on, if they were to take on each other’s perspective and bring that information into their own thinking, their perception of the issues would shift.

Then, if they were to take a look at the situation from the rest of the world’s perspective and bring that point of view into their thinking, their perceptions would shift again, and they could never look at the same issues in the same way. It’s exactly the same in personal relationships. Problems only occur when we begin to look at an issue from only one perspective – our own perspective. In effect we limit ourselves by our own thinking.

6. Learn to work on your relationships rather than just in your relationships. There are many types of relationships, and they all need love, nurturing and care to grow. Often times we need to pull ourselves out of the river of our relationships, to begin working on them rather than just going with the flow. Not that there is anything wrong with going with the flow, though in the wider context of our relationships if you don’t take control of your life, somebody else will.

Richard Bandler, one of the great minds of our time, often says, “Who’s driving the bus?” Of course what he means is who is working on your life, on your relationships, you or someone else? Because someone is driving the bus!

7. The ability to accept and appreciate others for who they are. This is a big rock in the river for most people. The ability to look for the “gold” in others is a unique skill. However it is a learned skill, for when we begin to look, our perspective changes and we can start to see things that we have not seen before. Focus is an amazing thing.

Psychological research carried out by Richard Bandler, John Grinder and Dr. Milton Erickson in the early seventies suggests that our mind deletes, distorts and generalises information so that we can understand it.

With over 2 million bits of data coming at us through our 5 senses every second, it is, the only way we can make sense of the world.

Focus can also be called our intention as it guides what we pay attention to. So if our intention is to accept and appreciate others, then this will begin to show up for us in our lives.

We will explain to you how you can learn to influence your intention and therefore what you pay attention to, in coming articles.

In closing, it is the structure of our perception, the communication skills we possess, the unconscious intention that we start with, that helps us form the basis of the way we relate with others. This is what we also call ‘emotional intelligence’.

I hope you have enjoyed this, the first of 6 (bits) articles on building successful relationships.

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Cancer survivor urges women to take part in the Cotswold Midnight Walk

By admin on Sunday, February 14, 2010
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Cancer survivor urges women to take part in the Cotswold Midnight Walk CANCER survivor Nina Hickman is challenging women to pull on their walking shoes and take part in the Cotswold Midnight Walk. Read more on Gazette

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