I have seen this topic in many forums being discussed heatedly. The scenario is thus. Somebody is in love with a married man/woman. The married person is also in love with our man/woman. But does not want to give away the marriage. What should be done?
Those who fall in love with a married person get trapped. That is the trap of dishonesty.
Such relationships will never be happy. The married person is having dual commitments and is hiding his love from his/her spouse. What use is that marriage? The thought that I am cheating my spouse is enough to kill all the joy. Dishonesty never gives joy.
Even if the married person wants to have dual commitments, he/she should make it very clear to the spouse. There should be no hide and seek. Once you tell your spouse, your spouse has to decide about whether the relationship should continue or marriage be broken. Do not be surprised if the spouse the other relationship to continue for love of his/her partner.
As far as the unmarried lover is concerned, he/she should stop seeing the lover unless the married end is sorted out fully. Otherwise you will again have the guilt of cheating. Such relationships are heart breaking and need tremendous understanding. Me and my own, that is the principal of life for most of us. No body wants to share his /her spouse with others. It was not uncommon in earlier days. But today, the whole idea seems difficult to imagine. Love and relationship are not easy to live with. Our emotions and feelings can bring us pain at any time.
I have one thing to say, after being married for 25 years ………….”The Love Has Lasted”……..This is an original song that I created after being married to my wife for the last 25 years. Seems kinda rare to have a marriage last that long in today’s world. Thanks Gina for the wonderful years we’ve spent together. And the many more to come. To hear other “Crescent” originals, go to: http//myspace.com/wickedsky Ronnie
we have just remarried in feb of 07 i don’t know what to do anymore i have tried everything possible to get him in the mood. i am at the end of my rope with this marriage . i don’t want to cheat on him because, i am save and i try to live a christen life , i am a very beauitful black woman, i work hard everyday and take good care of our home i dress nice and smell nice i make sure i go to the hairdresser every week. lknow that he is not cheatting because he never goes anywhere much if , i goes anywhere he is calling home constantly. when he is all he does is sleep or if he is not sleeping he is in that stupid barn in the back yard. i check on him constantly to see what he is doing out there which is nothing but talking to guy friends. we love each other very much but, we just don’t make love to each other we don’t even sleep in the same bed anymore because i have just given up. men are always hitting on me and sometimes i really would love to see what they are holding but, i love my husband and i feel maybe something will change i have asked him questions is it me because he makes me feel as though i am ugly or something is very wrong with me but when i go to work or drive beside another at a stop light men are always trying to ask me for my number or a date even white men give me comments on my skin or my beauty and when i hear someone say how beauitful i am as a black woman. it lifts my spirit i am 51 and proud to have reached this age and be beauitful. I pray and ask god everynight to strenthen me and husband because we need his strenth and guide. it is hard in these times not to cheat. my husband was shot in 2005 in the stomach and has had eight orperations sometimes i think this has a lot to do with what is going on with him. He has gained so much weight he weights over 200 pounds now when we got married he weighted 180. please help me to try to find an answer to this problem we are having because i can’t go on anymore because i need to held and loved. I feel so empty inside. please help me
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in your opinion can u actually have a happy married life if you do not love ur partner?