Communication is Key

By on Monday, April 18, 2011

Filled Under: General, Marriage Advice

Yes I know, that phrase is an overused cliché dished out by people who just don’t understand, but think they know everything.

BUT. It’s so true. You know it.

Communication between couples really is the key to a happy marriage. If there was a tutorial article entitled, ” How to Save a Marriage,” this one word just might cover it all. Converting it to concrete action is probably the most challenging part–it’s so easy to say and understand, but so hard to concretize.

What to Say

A marriage is founded on mutual trust, and that sacred trust is slowly eroded and easily broken by lies and misunderstandings. Which all can be filed under miscommunication.

The solution? Come clean. Everyone appreciates honesty.

Now you have to figure out how to do just that…

Find Your Media

It’s so very easy to be misunderstood. Avoid the chances of this happening–by choosing your media carefully. By media, I mean the vehicle through which you communicate what you have to say. News travels everywhere because of various forms of media-print, video, radio, or other more creative ways.

You might have been misunderstood because you’re unable to express your thoughts and feelings clearly. If you can compose letters better than you can deliver a speech, consider sitting down and writing a letter to your spouse. This way, you can be sure that he or she will read through it all, without constant interruption and direct confrontations.

If you’re more of a talker than a writer, consider recording a video or audio, with your complete thoughts on how you feel about your spouse, and how your relationship had changed.

Ditto! For Me, Too.

Consider doing this practice as a couple. For those who prefer having written communication, since this is more convenient and romantic, start a journal (one for each, or just the one for both of you) and write to each other regularly. You can also do this if you prefer video or audio, through personal vlogs or file sharing services. This alternative is also great for married couples separated by long distances.