married life guide

There are a lot of things we can learn from the Bible. When it comes to marriage, Christian beliefs do have a lot to say. A Christian marriage is a true one if both members live by the Bible.

Caveat Lector

Reader beware: the bible is a great compilation of teachings, but read it in proper context; never take it literally. Remember that the writings in the Old Testament had been meant for people of the Jewish faith, more than 2000 years ago. Back then, only one class of people the Scribes, know how to write–so a certain margin of error must be allotted to the writings as the original preachers could not have written the works themselves (and had no way to check!). And the Bible, being the most translated book in the world, has gone through a lot of copying, recopying, translations and retranslations–so be sure to take in the spirit of the words and not the literal meaning.

St. Paul

Saul’s eye-opening encounter with Jesus Christ on that road to Damascus certainly got the ball rolling. After his conversion (and name change from Saul to Paul), he goes on to write copiously to several groups of Christians. From these letters or epistles, he says a LOT about love, marriage, and love and marriage.

In his letters to the Colossians, Corinthians, Ephesians and the Hebrews, he wrote copiously about the duties of wives to husband, and vice versa. He also talks about everything that love is and isn’t, in his most famous letter to the Corinthians (which is a popular choice for readings in wedding ceremonies). He also talks about loving not just spouses, but everyone, in imitation of Jesus Christ.

Jesus Christ, as told by Mark and Matthew

The New Testament documents Jesus’ teachings, based on the written works of the four evangelists’ disciples. On marriage, Jesus says that a couple is united by marriage, through a covenant with God. And what God has united, no man should separate. These are accounted in both gospels from Mark and Matthew.

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Do you want to have a better marriage?

If you answered, “yes,” I have good news for you. You’re halfway there!

Seriously.

If you sincerely want a better marriage, then you’re willing to work for it. And that initiative is irreplaceable. Take some time out by yourself, and reflect on your married life.

Expectations for Your Marriage

Coming in to the marriage, what were your expectations? When you were single, how did you think your married life would be? How does that image compare to how things are currently? Did you want to have a marriage exactly like some people you know? Examine your actions as husband or wife. Have you found yourself (quite surprisingly) doing something exactly like your mom or dad had done in their marriage?

Comparing your current situation to your idealized marriage can show you why you’re dissatisfied with the way things are with your spouse. Try to be objective and examine if what you had expected before your marriage, is realistic, when applied to you, your spouse, and your living situation. Unconsciously, you are conditioned to act like your parents had in their own marriage–they are your first model of marriage after all. Don’t blame yourself, just strive to see things from your spouse’s point of view.

Expectations for Your Spouse

Do you feel like your spouse changed soon after marriage? If so, in what ways? How does your spouse compare to the husband or wife of your dreams? Did you expect him or her to fulfill specific things, and is your spouse aware of these?

Disillusion happens when you have unfulfilled expectations. And if you feel this for your spouse, try to think back. Waaaay back. To when you first met him or her, to the time you got into the relationship, to when you got married. If you feel that they’ve changed, look back and see if they have been like that all along–love truly is blind, or at least obscures the objectivity of people in it.

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Yes I know, that phrase is an overused cliché dished out by people who just don’t understand, but think they know everything.

BUT. It’s so true. You know it.

Communication between couples really is the key to a happy marriage. If there was a tutorial article entitled, ” How to Save a Marriage,” this one word just might cover it all. Converting it to concrete action is probably the most challenging part–it’s so easy to say and understand, but so hard to concretize.

What to Say

A marriage is founded on mutual trust, and that sacred trust is slowly eroded and easily broken by lies and misunderstandings. Which all can be filed under miscommunication.

The solution? Come clean. Everyone appreciates honesty.

Now you have to figure out how to do just that…

Find Your Media

It’s so very easy to be misunderstood. Avoid the chances of this happening–by choosing your media carefully. By media, I mean the vehicle through which you communicate what you have to say. News travels everywhere because of various forms of media-print, video, radio, or other more creative ways.

You might have been misunderstood because you’re unable to express your thoughts and feelings clearly. If you can compose letters better than you can deliver a speech, consider sitting down and writing a letter to your spouse. This way, you can be sure that he or she will read through it all, without constant interruption and direct confrontations.

If you’re more of a talker than a writer, consider recording a video or audio, with your complete thoughts on how you feel about your spouse, and how your relationship had changed.

Ditto! For Me, Too.

Consider doing this practice as a couple. For those who prefer having written communication, since this is more convenient and romantic, start a journal (one for each, or just the one for both of you) and write to each other regularly. You can also do this if you prefer video or audio, through personal vlogs or file sharing services. This alternative is also great for married couples separated by long distances.

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Do you have the feeling that something is amiss in your marriage yet can’t pinpoint exactly what’s wrong? Read the list below and see if any of these times is present in your relationship (you have a marriage crisis in your hands if you and your spouse are exhibiting at least three of these signs).

1. Are you constantly in conflict? Constant arguing and fighting can put a strain in a marriage. If the couple has children, this could affect their psychology as well.

2. In relation to the above item, is there an increasing incidence of cursing and unpleasant exchanging of words lately? It’s normal for married couples to have some misunderstandings and occasional fights. But when it reaches the point that it has become easy for one to hurl the choicest of expletives or abuses against the other, then it’s a sign of something serious. Respect for each other might be on its way out of the relationship.

3. Neglecting your spouse by focusing too much on work or other activity? Sure, all of us need to work for a living. That’s okay. But focusing too much on your work could make your spouse feel frustrated and uncared for. Whether it’s intentional or not, this kind of action can hurt your spouse’s feelings and make him or her feel insecure about your marriage.

4. No more dinner times together? Or more precisely, no together times anymore? The lines of communication may be breaking down.

5. Physical intimacy has become non-existent in your marriage? The absence of physical intimacy between married couples could spell doom to their relationship. There’s no fire to keep the passion alive, so to speak.

If any of these signs are familiar to you and you value your marriage, it’s high time that you take an important step to fix your relationship with your spouse. Ask for a marriage specialist’s help if necessary.

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I married a millionaire

When I was a little girl I used to dream about meeting a beautiful rich prince who would save me from misery and protect me. I believed in happily ever after.

At the age of 18 I moved to NYC and met a young good-looking man. He had just started a business & I joined him. After one year the money started to flood in. My boyfriend & I became multi millionaires. He started to smoke cigars, buy expensive cars and receive millionaire magazines. He bought clothes from Louis Vuitton and he simple became a jerk.

I told him go sod off and moved. He had gone through a personality change.

5 years after our relationship had ended I met a new man. He was 2 years younger then I. I loved him. After 2 years I broke up with him. He was immature, irresponsible and I had to pay for everything. I bought him clothes, food, expensive trips. After I finished with him I met another man who ripped me of. He stole a lot of money from me and expected me to pay for everything simply because I was rich. I was an intelligent, kind, beautiful but very naïve woman. I decided that love doesn’t exist. I decided to find my self a millionaire. Someone just like me, that I could marry & have children with. Screw love. Most men leave their wives when they’re too young anyway. It would surely happen to me too. Why would I be an exception? I started to go on millionaire speed dating in Brazil and joined a dating site for wealthy and successful people. I almost gave up when I suddenly found a message from an attractive man in my inbox. He said he had found me interested and attractive. We started to write to each other & speak on the phone. One date he asked me if I would want to visit him in NYC. I really love NYC and had always wanted to return to NY. I said yes. After one week I arrived at the airport in NY. He picked me up in his limo. I knew when I decided to go to NY it might be a bad decision, but when I saw him & his attitude I knew it was a bad decision. He was 10 years older then my. In reality 15 years older then me. It looked like he suffered from a middle life crisis. He had cufflinks & socks with skulls & a white suite and too much gel in his hair.  Prayed to god to help me. In the limo he opened champagne and told me I was beautiful. Then he started to smoke weed and that’s when I almost fainted.

The next morning after my arrival I told him I wanted to go home or to go live with friends I had in NY. I told him I didn’t like his attitude.

We argued and discussed, because he felt ashamed and embarrassed I wanted to leave him so soon. We had not had much time to talk. I told him the drugs speak for it. He was crazy. But I had to admit I was still curious about this man. Now when I had established that don’t want to date him and that I will leave I asked him if we could go for lunch and just talk like friends I don’t like harsh endings. He agreed. When he came to pick me up he looked very different, more relaxed, and much friendlier. Not like a mafia boss anymore.

After one week I was leaving. We were both crying. I didn’t want to leave him. He had changed me. I was happy. I used to be very strict while he was more artistic. He made me feel free, and we had so much fun together. He wasn’t a shallow weird crazy person after all. He had just been unsecure. Today we are married and I’m waiting my first child.

Millionaire dating is not a horrible thing. I don’t like men to take advantage over me just because I’m successful & my husband and I are both very similar when it comes to values, education, choice of life and lifestyle. I don’t think I could find a partner as easy on other dating sites.

(Story from an interview with an ex jetsetter)

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Premiering in April 1987, Married With Children became a staple of the growing Fox Network’s original prime time programming, paving the way for further original creations such as The Simpsons. The total opposite of what a TV family should be, the original working title for the show was Not The Cosbys (a reference to the perfect family atmosphere of the popular 80’s sitcom The Cosby Show). Paving the way for ABC’s Roseanne, Married With Children more than lived up to its working title, chronicling the pathetic life of a Chicago shoe salesman and his equally dysfunctional family…

Married With Children follows the exploits of the Bundy family, a dysfunctional trailer-park trash family living in American suburbia. The family is headed by Al Bundy (Ed O’Neill), a shoe salesman who’s lewd, crude, sarcastic, and completely dissatisfied with his life as a loser. Al’s wife Peg (Katey Sagal) spends her days watching Oprah and spending what little money Al brings home (she’s also Al’s greatest source of annoyance). Al and Peg’s lives are complicated by their children, Kelly (Christina Applegate), a beautiful yet stupid teenager, and Bud (David Faustino), a sex-starved adolescent. With neighbors Steve (David Garrison), Marcy (Amanda Bearse), and Jefferson (Ted McGinley) dropping in on a regular basis, Al’s dreams of a normal family life or a spare moment to relax are continually interrupted by the tortuous reality of his mediocre existence…

The Married With Children DVD features a number of hilarious episodes including the series pilot in which Peg and Al, worried because they have no friends of their own, meet the new neighbors, Steve and Marcy Rhoades. Steve and Marcy have the perfect marriage, but the bad influences of the Bundys conspire to turn them against each other… Other notable episodes from Season 1 include “Whose Room is It Anyway?” in which Steve and Marcy decide to add a new room onto their house while Peg and Al pit the couple against each other in order to serve their own selfish interests, and “Peggy Sue Got Work” in which Al’s refusal to buy Peg the VCR she wants prompts her to get a job in a local department store…

Below is a list of episodes included on the Married With Children (Season 1) DVD:

Episode 1 (Pilot) Air Date: 04-05-1987

Episode 2 (Thinnergy) Air Date: 04-12-1987

Episode 3 (But I Didn’t Shoot the Deputy) Air Date: 04-19-1987

Episode 4 (Whose Room is it Anyway?) Air Date: 04-26-1987

Episode 5 (Have You Driven a Ford Lately) Air Date: 05-03-1987

Episode 6 (Sixteen Years and What Do You Get) Air Date: 05-10-1987

Episode 7 (Married… Without Children) Air Date: 05-17-1987

Episode 8 (The Poker Game) Air Date: 05-24-1987

Episode 9 (Peggy Sue Got Work) Air Date: 05-31-1987

Episode 10 (Al Loses His Cherry) Air Date: 06-07-1987

Episode 11 (Nightmare on Al’s Street) Air Date: 06-14-1987

Episode 12 (Where’s the Boss) Air Date: 06-21-1987

Episode 13 (Johnny Be Gone) Air Date: 06-28-1987

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I have seen this topic in many forums being discussed heatedly. The scenario is thus. Somebody is in love with a married man/woman. The married person is also in love with our man/woman. But does not want to give away the marriage. What should be done?

Those who fall in love with a married person get trapped. That is the trap of dishonesty.
Such relationships will never be happy. The married person is having dual commitments and is hiding his love from his/her spouse. What use is that marriage? The thought that I am cheating my spouse is enough to kill all the joy. Dishonesty never gives joy.

Even if the married person wants to have dual commitments, he/she should make it very clear to the spouse. There should be no hide and seek. Once you tell your spouse, your spouse has to decide about whether the relationship should continue or marriage be broken. Do not be surprised if the spouse the other relationship to continue for love of his/her partner.

As far as the unmarried lover is concerned, he/she should stop seeing the lover unless the married end is sorted out fully. Otherwise you will again have the guilt of cheating. Such relationships are heart breaking and need tremendous understanding. Me and my own, that is the principal of life for most of us. No body wants to share his /her spouse with others. It was not uncommon in earlier days. But today, the whole idea seems difficult to imagine. Love and relationship are not easy to live with. Our emotions and feelings can bring us pain at any time.

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