married life guide

Want to create a happy marriage? Here’s the right recipe to do just that.

First, you need to have the following ingredients in generous quantity:

• Love
  • • Make an effort to always keep the romance between the two of you alive and simmering. If you feel that giving flowers or exchanging love notes is cheesy, then you have your work cut out for you.
• Trust
  • • Trust must be established even before the marriage. It allows love to flourish. If there’s no trust in a relationship, love withers and dies. Make sure that mutual trust is mixed well within your marriage.
• Patience
  • • It has been said that marriage is the ultimate test of patience. So don’t sweat the small stuff. Sharing your home with someone will literally test every ounce of patience you have.
• Respect
  • • Respect means you value your spouse. Mutual respect fuels a relationship even after age diminishes sexual appetite and physical attraction.
• Encouragement
  • • Look for any opportunities to encourage your spouse with delightful praises. A word of encouragement never fails to lift the heaviness of daily life.

Mix a generous amount of the these ingredients in your marriage. Then serve with a smile.

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In a perfect world, marriages last a lifetime, divorce is non-existent and married couples are forever in love with each other. But in the real world, many marriages end in divorce and married couples face challenges that no amount of whispering sweet nothings can solve. What’s worse, petty issues escalate into full blown marital problems. Why? Because most of the time, couples do not realize that trouble is brewing in paradise until it’s too late.

Do you find yourself in the following situations?

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• The two of you bickering at the drop of a hat.
• You or your spouse do the eye roll a lot when the other is speaking.
• You feel that verbal, physical and/or emotional abuses are the only constant things in your marriage.
• Sleeping together, literally, pretty much sums up the sexual activity in your marriage.
• You can’t agree on almost any thing you can’t even pretend to agree. Anymore.
• You feel that your spouse is happier when you are away for a business trip. And you realize that you are happy too, being away and all.

If these are familiar to you and experience them on a regular basis, you, my friend, are having marriage troubles. Don’t wait until your marriage becomes a battlefield. If you still value your relationship, seek counseling. Or have a moment to talk with your wife to see where your marriage is going. Be aware of the clues. It is a good start if you want to fix your relationship.

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A happy marriage is more than just being in love with your spouse for as long as you’re together. In fact, happiness in marriage is more than just a romantic concept. It’s an act of will. It might have worked during your courtship all the way to your early years together, but being in love must be sustained by other important factors. Here are three of them:

Respect

Love is a great foundation but in the long run, respect is even more fundamental. Respect makes it possible for you and your partner to be friends always. Without respect, you can’t even share a sincere friendship.

Respecting your partner means you put him or her in high regard, to the point that you wouldn’t want to do anything that would hurt your marriage.

Individuality

The biggest mistake you could ever make in a relationship is to influence and change your partner into the person who embodies everything that you like. Remember that your spouse is his or her own person. Do not impose upon your spouse your own ideas, thoughts and beliefs. Instead, make a genuine effort to understand his or her ways. Conversely, remind your spouse to understand yours as well.

Be each other’s cheerleader as you pursue your respective beliefs, hobbies and interests.

Compromise

As you respect your spouse and his or her individuality, it would be easy for you to find a middle path once the marriage is confronted with some issues. Marriage requires a lot of compromise.

To put happiness into your marriage, always see where the other is coming from and settle on a compromise.

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